10 things Infertility has taught me

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                                            10 things infertility has taught me

10.) Patience
I never in my wildest dreams think it would take us over 2 years to become pregnant. As much as we wanted a baby we had to wait on God's time. I trusted God even has hard as it was to wait. And now I must have patience again as we wait for our next embryo transfer. I'm still working on my patience and admit it is hard. I have to remind myself all the time that it is out of my control.

9.) Never take anything for granted 
The women who can get pregnant within getting off birth control in a month or two- consider yourself blessed. I never realized how many people were struggling to conceive until I was going through it myself. 

8.) Gratefulness
Once we went through IVF, I couldn't be more grateful to the people who got us to where we are now. I wasn't ever sure if we would get to where we are now but we have. It has been a long road but my heart is grateful beyond words. Thank you just never seems like enough to the people who helped you become parents. And for me becoming a mother has been a dream! 

7.) Some things are worth the wait
It may have taken us awhile to get our little girl but she is more perfect than I could of ever imagined. She makes me want to be a better mom. And I appreciate being a mom so much more because of the struggle. 

6.) Life is not easy
Everyone has struggles in their lives. Ours just happen to be infertility. God gave us this struggle to make us stronger. Not only as individuals but as a couple. My hubby has been my rock in this life and I couldn't of asked for a better man. He's picked me up so many times when I felt defeated. All you can do  sometimes is pick yourself up and give it to God. 

5.) You find out who your friends are
Its hard to relate to infertility unless you've really been through it. Some people just really don't understand. But you find the people that are there to lift you up when you are down. There are people who know you just need a hug or a coffee date. We've had wonderful support from family and friends. Sometimes you just need somebody there to support you and listen. 

4.) To be strong
There were many times I thought I would crumble under all the heartache and struggle.  There were many days when I put on a happy face when I was hurting inside. I saw the hurt on my hubby's face too and it killed me. I felt many times like I had let him down because I was the one with the issues. I realize now God gave us this journey for a reason. I prayed and prayed for a miracle. I wasn't going to let infertility define me.

3.) Never give up
I honestly felt defeated after hearing the news of our infertility and recent miscarriage. The words "You have about 5-10 % conceiving on your own" still echoes in my mind. And after I recent miscarriage all I could hear was "I'm sorry but I can't see anything." Its easy to throw in the towel and give up. Its good to let out your emotions but you cannot let them rule your life. I'm reminded so often by looking at my daughter what a beautiful blessing we have received. She's our miracle. I would never give up on my dream to become a parent. And we will continue on this journey to bring her a brother or sister. 

2.) Be kind to everyone
You never know what anyone is going through. A lot of people have mastered putting on a happy face. No one wants to be know as the weak person who always breaks down. We feel like if we can pretend like nothing is wrong others will believe it as well. People's feelings are very delicate. Just a simple smile or compliment can really change someone's day. Its the little things that can mean the most!

1.) Let Go and Let God
I had to learn to let go of my worries and give them to God. As much as you think you are in control of the situation, you're really not. I was not the one in charge of my future. I kept telling myself and still do that he really does have a plan. Everything may not go according to my plans, but I know there was a reason. He is there to answer my prayers and take care of my worries.  Cherish what you do have and let God take care of the rest.